69 YEARS WITH DIABETES:� HAROLD FELENDER
Photo:�
portrait.� Caption:� Harold Felender
"I was born October� 19, 1918.�
I can't remember
exactly when I was diagnosed with diabetes--I
believe I was
12 or 13 years old.� I was very young, and I'm 81 now.� I
went into the hospital at Christmastime, but I
don't
remember which year.� I've had diabetes at least 69 years...
It could be even more.
A little incident in that hospital sounds funny
now.
First I went to the clinic, and from there they
sent me to
the hospital.�
It was Christmastime, then.� My
diet was so
restricted...�
They served me a tray with a little ornament-
-a gumdrop and one of those candy bubble
ornaments.� I ate
the whole thing!� I was so hungry I ate anything that was
around.�
It was kind of cute.� You weren't
supposed to eat
that kind of thing--I found that out later.
I wasn't in a coma, yet.� I urinated a lot, all the
normal symptoms of new diabetes.� Fortunately, they got me
OK before I passed out or anything.
I was taught, there in the hospital, how to give
myself
shots.�
My mother had tuberculosis, so she was not at home,
and my grandmother was there but she didn't know
too much
about those things, so I had to do everything
myself.� The
hospital staff taught me...� I think they used an orange or
a grapefruit for me to put the needle into, just
to get the
feel of it.
I ate a lot of oranges in the evenings, back
when I was
young.�
That was my bad time--lots of hypos--and we would
buy dozens of oranges and I would eat them quite
a bit.
Oranges used to be a pretty standard thing to
get you back
up.� I
couldn't use any sugar back then.� But I
used to slip
a bit into my coffee to give it a little flavor,
you know.
I started out with three shots a day (there was
only
Regular insulin, those days).� I was going to school, so
they took that into consideration, and shifted
me to two
shots, morning and night.� Now I'm on a sliding scale
besides two shots a day.� Now I use the Ultralente for
morning and night and in between, on a sliding
scale, I use
Humalog.
You know, I was a Boy Scout.� I made Senior Patrol
Leader, and even went on an overnight, sleeping
in a pup
tent, with my insulin.
My sugars fluctuate too much, now.� They call it
"brittle diabetes."� My numbers can go from 350 down to 80
or 70, and I won't feel any different.� I don't really know
why all this happens.� Sometimes, you do a lot of exercise
or something and you know that will help bring
it down.� But
I found out later that when the sugar was high
to start
with, exercising could make it even higher.� (Editor's Note:
Doctors advise caution starting physical
exercise with a
blood sugar reading of 250mg/dL or higher.� Diabetics should
consult with their health care team before
beginning an
exercise program.)
I was strict on my diet.� I didn't eat sugar.� That was
the main thing.�
As far as everything else, I would eat most
any food that didn't have added sugar.� I ate within reason,
I didn't measure anything.� The hospital put me on an 1800-
calorie diet and that seemed to be plenty for
me.� They
increased it to 2000,� I think, when I got married.
Of course when they released saccharin for
diabetics
that was really great.� I've used that for over 30 years.� I
still use it as a sweetener.�
My wife, Beatrice, and I had three
children.� Those
were the days when they thought it wasn't too
wise for a
diabetic to have children.� But we went ahead and we have
three lovely children.� My wife passed away two years ago.
She had cancer.
My oldest is Donna.� My son, Duane, was next.�
And the
baby is Elizabeth.� They are all married and have their own
children.�
The first was born in '41.� One
about four years
later and the last one was four or five years
after that.
My oldest, Donna, is the one who takes care of
me all the
time.�
The youngest daughter is in South Carolina so she's
out of the picture.� My son is in Simi Valley, California,
but he has to work all the time, so he comes in
the evenings
and during the weekend sometimes, and we go to
dinner.� But
my daughter is here every week and calls me
every day.
From the Editor:� Daughter Donna describes her father
as "amazing... strong in mind and body,
someone who figures
things out.�
Diabetes never seemed to interfere with any
part of his life," she says.� "I have diabetes as well, and
he has been a role model--I look at him, and
know I'll be
all right."
To keep track of my diabetes, in those early
days
(Harold continues), I regularly tested my
urine.� I didn't
have to use the test you boiled over a Bunsen
burner.� I had
strips you dip into the urine, then look at the
color.
That's what I used for a long time.
When I was young, my diabetes seemed to be under
control.�
Once we first got married, my wife, Beatrice, took
over my diabetes management.� She was really excellent.� She
watched everything.� I didn't have to do a thing.�
I
depended on her, and that's what made it so
difficult when
she passed away.� I didn't know anything.� I
had to learn
everything again.
I started out as a sheet-metal worker, making
aircraft.
That was another thing.� Jobs were scarce at the time and
just before I got married I went to North
American Aviation
two times.�
And they didn't hire me.� But
then I went to an
air conditioning school, that agreed to find me
a job.� When
I finished the school, they sent me back to
North American,
and I got the job.� I had diabetes, but in those days you
didn't advertise it too much.� So that's one reason I guess,
they did take me on.
In 1970, when only our youngest daughter,
Elizabeth,
was still living at home, she decided she wanted
to attend
college in Israel.� Not taking it seriously, I told her we
could not afford to send her, but that if she
could find me
a job there, we would all move to Israel, so she
could
attend the college.� I thought that a fair offer, as I was
working for Rockwell Rocketdyne, and had 33
years of
seniority at the time.
A few months later, I received a formal
questionnaire
from Israel.�
I completed and returned it, and shortly
received a 3-year contract from Israel Aircraft
Industries,
which would also pay our moving and
transportation both
there and back to the U.S.A.� This would be a great
adventure.
Once we arrived in Israel, our first emergency
was
finding out that the only insulin Israel
produced was U-40,
far less concentrated than my U-100.� Plus, the insulin
types I was using were unavailable.� We immediately had my
company wire New York, and had some insulin
flown in.� This
was expensive.
The next thing we found was that their syringes
had a
needle about 1/16 inch diameter--big!� The people using them
had a scab each time, but didn't know any
different.� We had
my daughter Donna, in the U.S.A., send us the
needles I
needed, and later we found drugstores that
imported the
insulin I needed.� All this went on while I was working with
the Westwind business jet.
As I was working all day, my wife Beatrice had
to do
all the running around, on the bus (we didn't
get a car
until later).�
Finding different drugstores, in a strange
town and different language, she earned more
than her pay
then.
I joined Lodge #51 of the Free and Accepted
Masons,
there in Israel, and stayed involved with
them.� When we
returned to the U.S.A. in 1980, we transferred
to a Masonic
Lodge near where we lived, in Canoga Park, California.� When
I moved to Coldwater North Co-Op, North
Hollywood, I
transferred to Beverly Hills Lodge #528, and
went through
the stations, becoming Master of the Lodge in
1991.
Now, it's much easier for a diabetic to get
jobs.� Some
companies are still restrictive, but
generally� it's easier
all around.�
Of course, I'm Jewish, and I had more trouble
getting a job being Jewish when I first started
than having
the diabetes!�
But, that's another story.� I
ended up
professionally as a quality assurance engineer.� I was a job
shopper the last five years I worked.� It's higher than an
inspector.�
It was for metal work, but I worked in
electronics, too.� Some people say I had too much experience
for the years that I worked.
I have a lot of friends and family, not close,
but
distant, who have diabetes, and who thought it
was a joke.
They would take some beer sometime or would eat
chocolate
bars sometime, and they paid the price--the side
effects of
diabetes.�
In the end, it killed some of them--the side
effects.�
I would say definitely to watch the diet.� That's
the important thing.� The exercise?� I never
believed in
tying myself down to a routine of exercise which
I knew
every day I wouldn't be doing.� But some exercise is
definitely good.� And they say walking is the easiest thing,
which I used to do.� I used to walk three miles in about 45
minutes which is about three miles an hour, not
fast.
I am having some problems now.� I haven't had any
amputations or anything like that.� I'm passing out from the
low blood sugar reactions.� I don't have any warning, I
don't feel anything's coming, but out I go.� Like Saturday
night here.�
We went out for lunch and finished about 3:00.
And about 7:00, I came in to take a test at home
and my
meter said "error."� So I tried it again and it said
"error"
again.�
The third time I really watched everything I was
doing to be sure I wasn't doing anything wrong
and it said
"error" for the third time.� I went to get my manual, and I
passed out.
I test six to eight times a day.� I have to now.� It
fluctuates so much and I pass out so easy that I
have to be
more careful.�
(Editor's Note:� The
"hypoglycemia
unawareness" Mr. Felender describes is not
uncommon, and the
actions he takes in response, to test more often
and be more
careful, are the correct ones.)
The people who have diabetes, they don't have to
worry
about being so exact and everything, you
know.� It isn't
torture to have it.� It's just if they stay away from foods
with sugars.�
Now that everything is marked, it's much
easier.�
If something has more than 2 grams of sugar, I
don't use it except for special purposes.� I control it that
way.� I
try to use zero sugars in all the foods I eat.
From the Editor:� Although the concept of "diabetic
diet" has moved on from "no sugar"
to meal planning that
controls the entire food intake, allowing sugar
in
moderation while limiting fat intake, Mr.
Felender is right,
it is important to stick to your diet, and to
test blood
glucose regularly.� He is to be congratulated for his
diligence, and for doing so well.��